A printable, no-fluff toolkit for parents of kids with ADHD (ages 5–12). Visual routines, word-for-word de-escalation scripts, and simple focus systems to help you handle the hard moments without yelling, bribes, or endless arguments.
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The Calm Home ADHD Toolkit
Visual routines, de-escalation scripts & focus systems for kids ages 5–12
What you'll use first
Common advice like "just give a time-out" or "take away screens tomorrow" often doesn't land for kids who struggle with executive function. If these moments sound familiar, this toolkit was made for you:
Repeating "shoes on!" five times and still running late, with everyone upset before school.
Freezing up when your child is overwhelmed at the store, at a transition, or when the iPad turns off.
Twenty minutes of work that turns into two hours of tears, stalling, and frustration.
Every page is a tool, not an essay. Start with the 12-page guide, then use the 4 bonus tools when you need more. Find the problem you're facing today, jump to that page, and use it.
What's in the toolkit and who it's for.
How to set up the toolkit in your first 15 minutes, plus 3 rules that make it work.
Why delayed punishments and big rewards often backfire, explained in one simple table.
Night-before prep, a 5-step sequence, what to say, and a kid's "dopamine menu."
Printable picture checklist your child checks off, Monday to Friday.
The 4 phases of overload (Rumble, Peak, Recovery, Repair) and what to do in each.
"Say this, not that" for public tantrums, screens, sibling fights, and bedtime.
Body doubling, 10-minute micro-sprints, sprint lengths by age, and a sprint log.
A 5-step "ramp down" and a fill-in agreement you sign together.
How to set up the corner, a 5-level feelings thermometer, and 12 calm-down choices.
Two minutes a night to log triggers, wins, and routine consistency.
The CALM method, go-to scripts, and when to call for help, on one page.
One download, one price. The bonuses start right after the main guide.
An "About My Child" profile for teachers, 5 ready-to-edit emails, and a meeting plan to prepare for conversations with school. Not legal advice.
Scripts 13 to 42 for everyday moments: transitions, shoes and backpacks, homework pushback, siblings, bedtime and more.
Printable Monday-to-Friday charts for morning, after school, homework, bedtime and screen-time landing, plus a simple reward board.
Five short resets for the moment you feel your own temper rising, a daily minimum for hard days, and a weekly check-in.
You don't have to come up with the perfect words in the hardest moment. Here are 3 of the 12 scripts, exactly as they appear in the toolkit.
If the toolkit isn't useful for your family, email us at calmhometoolkit@gmail.com within 30 days of purchase and we'll refund your full payment. No forms, no questions. Refunds go back to your original payment method through Gumroad.
Yes. It's written for parents of kids ages 5–12 with ADHD, and the tools are built around the executive-function challenges many of these kids share: starting tasks, holding instructions in mind, sensing time, shifting between activities, and managing big feelings. Parents of kids without a formal diagnosis who struggle in these same areas often find it useful too.
Executive function is the brain's "manager": the skills that help us start, plan, remember, and stay calm. Page 3, the ADHD Brain Decoder, explains it in one simple table: what you see ("he ignores me"), what's usually happening underneath, and what tends to work instead. Every other page builds on that idea by moving reminders out of your child's head and into pictures, timers, and checklists.
Page 4 gives you a 5-minute night-before prep list and a 15-minute sequence in the same order every day: wake & connect, bathroom, get dressed, breakfast, launch pad. It includes the exact phrases to use instead of repeating yourself, a kid's "dopamine menu" for motivation, and fixes for common snags. Page 5 is the printable picture checklist your child checks off.
Page 8 covers homework with two methods: body doubling (sitting nearby doing your own quiet task) and 10-minute micro-sprints with movement breaks in between. It includes recommended sprint lengths by age, a setup checklist, a sprint log, and a short email template for talking to the teacher when homework becomes too much.
No. This is an educational parenting resource, not a treatment for ADHD, and it doesn't replace care from a pediatrician, therapist, or other qualified professional. Many families use it alongside professional support. If your child's behavior is a safety concern, please talk with your pediatrician.
Right after checkout you'll get a download link on the confirmation page, plus an email receipt from Gumroad with a link to download the PDF again later. Nothing is shipped.
Yes. It is one 29-page PDF in standard US Letter size (the 12-page guide plus 17 pages of bonus tools), ready for any home printer. Tip: slide the checklist and calm-down menu into clear sheet protectors and use a dry-erase marker so you can reuse them every week.
Email calmhometoolkit@gmail.com within 30 days of purchase and we'll refund your full payment.
Download the toolkit tonight, print three pages, and try the morning card tomorrow.
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